In a class I took today, we sat down and took a version of the Meyers-Briggs Personality test.
My results were: INFJ. However, my scores on the middle two letters were either tied or nearly tied with the other possible results. (N vs. S and T vs. F) In the end, the F was tied with the T and the deciding factor was that my teacher and fellow classmates felt the F was more applicable to me than the T.
It highlighted to me the value of feedback from others. I may see myself as both a Thinker and a Feeler, but others definitely see me as more of a Feeler than a Thinker.
This subject came up again when I was at a Job Networking event tonight at Cavalry Church in Los Gatos. Ivan Temes was highlighting the need to build authentic relationships with the people you network with, and how your feedback can help them.
“Say someone has an accent, and they’re speaking so fast that you can’t understand what they’re saying, but you don’t want to say anything that might hurt their self esteem. Your silence doesn’t help them. You could say, ‘You know, I’d love to hear what you have to say, if you could slow down a little bit.’ ”
We may have to work a little to find a positive or polite way to speak up about something, but it’s definitely worth the effort. If we never tell others what we think of them, for fear of bruising their self-esteem, they’ll never learn how others see them, or what it is they need to improve upon.
I think this principle can be carried over to the government too… if we don’t tell them what we do and do not agree with, by going down to the polls and voting, they’re never going to know.
Our silence is not helpful. Speak up!